On this day, 16 years ago, my father breathed his last and transitioned to eternity. Thus began the very painful process of grief, multiple shifts, many tears and clutching onto any memories of my dearest dad.
I see the resemblance, as do many others who say that they see dad in me especially when I laugh and smile 🤭, that’s heartwarming indeed 😌. I never imagined or dreamt that for the rest of my adult life daddy wouldn’t be around, I assumed he’d live forever and die when I am ‘ready’. Alas, life doesn’t wait for you to be ready, at times life forces you to face certain realities whether you’re ready or not! Not fair hey?
Well, fair or not, life goes on and so must we. Easier said than done but totally possible especially when you are open to shifting with the shifts life presents to you, so instead of fighting it and trying to hold on to what’s no longer present in your life, release and embrace newness of life. I know it sounds outrageously scary, but that’s how I eventually managed to untangle myself from the clutches of grief some 10 odd years after my dad passed on.
I share my experience so I can help someone who may be struggling with the loss of a loved one, remind and encourage them that all hope is not lost: there is hope for you and you can move on with your life because moving on doesn’t mean forgetting about them completely but it means you’re honoring them and yourself by living and becoming the best version of yourself.
My dad was the King of Drip 😎🤗, not only did he love and use the Old Spice range of products, he also wore suits by prominent brands like Armani, Giovanni, Enrico Fermi, eye and sunglasses by Brentoni, Van Heusen shirts, that was a big deal back then…if you know, you know! His moto was, “I’m a child of the King!”, and whenever he dressed up and looked all dapper he’d strut like a model in front of us all until we complimented him 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 he wouldn’t stop until all of us commented on how smart he was, hahahaha! He also used to say, “If you’re feeling your worst, dress your best!” The reason being that when you dress your best, people’s compliments will uplift your spirit and change your mood to a more positive attitude. He was such a wise man and I’m honored to have been sired, raised and loved by him😍
I miss those days but I’m grateful that I have these and more memories to treasure and relive whenever I want to. Although at times I do feel sad when I feel I need his advice and wise counsel, but I’ve learnt to not stay in that lane of sadness, but to smile and say, “Thank You Lord for having given me the best dad in the world!”
Here’s to you, or someone you know, who may be struggling with and missing a loved one that passed away, cry whenever you need to, go through those photo albums, talk about them with your loved ones, relive those precious memories of them, and thereafter, get up and live your best life! Honor the departed with your life: live, love, give, forgive, embrace, release, go after those things you desire as you become the best version of yourself. It’s not easy, but it’s totally possible 😉 Sending much love to you💕 💖
Thank you so much for passing by on this Remembrance Day, much appreciated 😍
Congratulations! You’ve safely crossed over into 2023👏👏👏🎉🥳🎉🥳🎉 Welcome to my space and thank you for time and attention, much appreciated 🙏
Don’t you just love the newness of new things? Be it a new day, new week, new month, new season, new clothes, new location, new job, new adventure, new opportunity, new gadget, new relationship; there’s always this sense of renewal and the promise of greater things ahead that accompanies newness. I’m so excited about this new year of Renewal and Newness in every are of my life, and I pray the same for you too🙏
I love the words of our Lord Jesus Christ in the Book of Luke 12:22-26 “And [Jesus] said to His disciples, Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious and troubled [with cares] about your life, as to what you will [have to] eat, or about your body, as to what you will [have to] wear. For life is more than food, and the body [more] than clothes. Observe and consider the ravens; for they neither sow nor reap, they have neither storehouse nor barn; and [yet] God feeds them. Of how much more worth are you than the birds! And which of you by being overly anxious and troubled with cares can add a cubit to his stature or a moment [unit] of time to his age [the length of his life]? IF THEN YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO DO SUCH A LITTLE THING AS THAT, WHY ARE YOU ANXIOUS AND TROUBLED WITH CARES ABOUT THE REST?” [AMP](emphasis mine to highlight the weight of Jesus’ words.., pause and let them sink in..)
As we journey forward in 2023, let us remember to not be anxious and troubled about our lives because God has already provided everything we need for life and for godliness, as He promised in the Book of 2 Peter 1:3, “For His divine power has bestowed upon us all things that [are requisite and suited] for life and godliness, through the [full, personal] knowledge of Him Who called us by and to His own glory and excellence (virtue). [AMP]
In the Book of Philippians 4:6 we find another instruction and life nugget about not worrying about our lives:“Do not fret or have any anxiety about anything, but in every circumstance and in everything, by prayer and petition [definite requests], with thanksgiving, continue to make your wants known to God.” [AMP]
May you never lose hope in this new year!
May you never stop believing that anything is possible!
May you not be afraid to start something new this year, be it a new habit, new business, new exercise routine, new healthier way of living, a more positive attitude and outlook towards life; or maybe it’s not new but you’re thinking of improving on it, go ahead and start doing things differently!
May you never forget that God’s grace is sufficient for all your needs!
May you remember that you have the answers within you, don’t be afraid to look deeper within you and draw out the answers and solutions in you. #balanceispossible😉
May you remember that God delights in both hearing and answering your prayers if you pray in faith, doubting nothing, and in accordance with His will: 1 John 5:14-15 “And this is the confidence (the assurance, the privilege of boldness) which we have in Him; [we are sure] that if we ask anything (make any request) according to His will (in agreement with His own plan), He listens to and hears us. And if (since) He listens to us in whatever we ask, we also know [with settled and absolute knowledge] that we have [granted us as our present possessions] the requests made of Him.” [AMP]
Selah (pause and calmly think of this) 😌
All scripture in this text is quoted from The Amplified Bible, unless otherwise mentioned.
Thank you once again for reading to the end🤝. I hope you found something to take and apply from what I’ve shared here.
I would love to hear from you👂. Do let me know, in the comments, how this blog has impacted on and/or inspired you. I value your feedback as it helps me grow and see, as well as learn, things from a different perspective other than mine.
As we bid goodbye to 2022, load shedding continues. The chaos resulting from this experience is disheartening to say the least. However, the load shedding has forced people to find alternative energy solutions they hadn’t initially budgeted or planned for. Below I share how this load shedding has affected someone I know who represents what most households and businesses are dealing with:
“Load-shedding took my family and I by surprise. I never knew we would be taken back to the stone age so abruptly and so mercilessly.
The week before ZETDC & ZPC’s onslaught, I had de-frosted my fridge in order to get it fixed. A few days later I bought 7 full chickens in preparation for the kid’s 3rd term school holiday. On top of that I had bought 5kg of pork bones and 5kg of beef. The first day electricity went out for an extended number of hours I phoned the ZESA helpline. A very polite lady told me that it was load-shedding, we were to endure daily power cuts from 5am to 10:30pm for an unknown number of weeks to come.
I was angry, and my anger dissolved into despair, and despair turned into misery. I bought ice packs but they did not do much as we are experiencing one of the hottest summers in Zimbabwe. I ended up making dog food out of the chickens and pork and my fur baby Fluffy had the time of his life.
I had to go out of budget and buy an inverter, a battery charger and a deep cycle battery. These would ensure 5 hours of tv time, a fan running and phone charging. I also bought solar powered lamps / lights that last for up to 4 hours. Whilst these would certainly make life better to an extent, the quality of life has changed. My kids have become so miserable, the holiday they so much looked forward to has been reduced to a disappointing experience.
My pockets are definitely feeling the pinch as I have to buy meat on a daily basis now and the gas prices are ridiculously high. It is my hope that the powers be consider solving this crisis asap.”
We continue to hope against hope that a lasting solution to this predicament will be our new reality in the coming year. If you are experiencing load shedding and would like to share your story, do let me know in the comments 🙂
Here’s to wishing you and your oved one’s a safe passage into the New Year, 2023!!! See you on the other side and thank you so much for having passed through my blog in 2022, much appreciated 😍
Merry Christmas friends!!! What a year 2022 has been😅🤗. I bumped into this amazing song by Tasha Nyambe titled ‘Christmas in Zambia’ and it’s by far THE BEST CHRISTMAS SONG EVER!!! Right from the first line to the end of the song, Tasha paints a vivid picture of how we celebrate Christmas in Africa, not just in Zambia.
Let me quote the first part of this song for you here: No we will not go dashing through the snow, but we will watch as the water drains. No we won’t dare hang Christmas lights out here, you’d get an electric shock in the rain..
Chorus: IT DOESN’T SNOW ON CHRISTMAS HERE, ITS EITHERTHERE IS RAIN OR THE SKY IS CLEAR; BUT WE STILL HAVE FUN AND LOTS OF HOLIDAY CHEER! SO SANTA THERE’S NO NEED FOR YOUR REINDEER, JUST KEEP A RAINCOAT AND UMBRELLA NEAR, IT DOESN’T SNOW ON CHRISTMAS HERE
The moment I heard this song I knew I had to share it with you guys as it resonated with me and a whole lot of Africans who only see reindeer in the movies, and our experience of Christmas is a totally different one from what’s depicted in the movies. It brought back childhood memories of playing in the rain, collecting inhlwa/ishwa/inswa (tasty African treats that appear during the rainy season: they are easy to catch either on the ground or as they fly around…if you know you know😉).
Below is an excerpt from Beauty World Zambia Magazine’s Facebook page about Tasha Nyambe:
“Tasha Nyambe, a Zambian vocalist now artist currently residing in China dropped her debut album which has one song that most Zambians can relate to titled “Christmas in Zambia” a song that describes a typical Christmas in Zambia.
The song narrates the differences in Christmas traditions across the world. She plays around with a variety of comparisons making it relatable for people all over the world and not just Zambians.
We loved how she was able to describe the differences in the Christmas culture she highlights how the renowned “Santa Claus” is simply “Father Christmas” in Zambia or how it rains and not snows and she also tells us about Reindeers and all the work they do to help Santa.
The melody of the song carries her message so well as she tries to share that even though we celebrate Christmas differently we are still celebrating it right in our own ways.”
Let me pen off and say Thank you #Tashanyambe for gracing us with such great music!!! And to you dear friend, what are some of your Christmas memories and experiences that you’d love to share? Go ahead and do so in the comments below!
A very good morning to you, for those of you on CAT/GMT+2 time. To the rest of the world, Hello there! Yesterday I began sharing on the load shedding gwanz in Zimbabwe 🇿🇼 and in my excitement about electricity being restored, I immediately stopped writing, put my phone on the charger, took the milk out of the freezer so it wouldn’t freeze. Had put it in the freezer yesterday morning just after electricity got cut off. Those who are currently experiencing load shedding will relate and bear in mind that during load shedding certain perishable foods will have be moved from fridge to freezer so they don’t spoil quickly😅 #beingthrifty
It’s 5.40am and electricity is still on, unlike yesterday where electricity went off just after 4am. I know this because I was up at 4.15am yesterday and there was no electricity 🤔. That memo that I missed on the load shedding schedule, if at all there’s one🙄, do kindly share it with me my fellow Zimboz. Yesterday my hairdresser was like, “You know on Monday morning we almost called Zesa to tell them there’s a fault in our area because there was electricity!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣” We all had a good laugh at the irony of it all as having electricity nowadays is considered a miracle, or a fault, if you know you know 😉, talk about the #newnormal
As unsettling as all the scenarios related to load shedding, watching your food decay in the fridge is painful. With the cost of living so high, feeding one’s family is such a challenge, top it up with 17hours of load shedding and you have a cocktail for disaster. If you have a fridge with a freezer, it would be wise of you to move your vegetables and other perishables I to the freezer as soon as electricity goes so they don’t spoil quickly. You then have to wake up as soon as electricity comes back so you return the perishables to the fridge.
Talk about trying to make a dollar out of fifteen cents! There was this song we’d sing as children while playing in the school grounds: ‘Chitty chitty bang bang sitting on the wall, tried to make a dollar out of fifteen cents. She missed, she missed, she missed like this!’ 🤭 hahaha, those were the days man! We didn’t even know there was something called #loadshedding as we had a consistent supply of electricity, and the only time electricity would go off was whenever there was a fault. At that time Zesa (the Zimbabwe Electricity Supply Authority) would periodically make announcements on radio and ‘sincerely apologize for the inconvenience caused’ and assure the general public that ‘our engineers are working tirelessly to restore electricity’ and electricity would be restored within a few minutes, hours if the fault was a major one.
Back then, we never heard of anyone stealing transformer oil, neither did we hear of anyone dying while in the process. However, nowadays we see in the news, mostly on social media, images of men who would have been electrocuted to death while trying to steal transformer oil. A rather unfortunate way to die, but that’s what’s happening in some places.
These are but a few of the really sad incidents related to #loadshedding. What other incidents have you either witnessed or experienced due to load shedding? Would you like to share them with me? Kindly drop it in the comments 🙂
It’s 6.21am and electricity is still on 😳. What used to be normal is now weird, how crazy is that?
Funny how although the major electricity service provider in Zimbabwe, ZETDC (Zimbabwe Electricity Transmission and Distribution Company) is still being referred to as Zesa. I liked Zesa as they delivered on their promise of ensuring that electricity was available 24/7: the Zimbabwe Electricity Supply Authority. I remember when electricity outages in Zim started sometime in the late 90s, people now dubbed Zesa as Zimbabwe Electricity Sometimes Available 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣, not sure if that’s why Zesa then rebranded to ZETDC, the Zimbabwe Electricity Transmission and Distribution Company.
Are you experiencing load shedding in your hood? How’s that going? My heart goes out to you hey, do remember to unplug all electric devices to avoid power surges as they are unannounced and can cause a lot of damage to your property. Peace and love to you, this too shall pass…
The above image tells a compelling tale; the reality of #loadsheddinginZim. I must say I’m not sure whether image above is from someone in Zimbabwe but it depicts the current situation. For the past 2weeks we’ve had serious load shedding where electricity goes off at 5am and returns at or after 10pm, meaning we only have about 7hours of electricity available and 17hours of no electricity 🤔 For a country that is “open for business” this situation leaves a lot to be desired.
I’d been waiting for a trigger to write about #loadshedding gwanz and the above image got to me. Don’t get me wrong, I know there’s a lot that people are experiencing due to the load shedding, but somehow I wasn’t really moved to write about it until I bumped into this image of someone using their car battery to charge up their phones and laptops. Talk about desperation right?🤔
I know of someone in the process of renovating their kitchen and they’ve had to hire a generator to ensure that the carpenter finishes the job as they’re also fitting a new ceiling. Quite the process indeed. A lot of businesses have resorted to either buying or hiring a generator to keep their business afloat during this load shedding period. This has led to price hikes in order for businesses to absorb the cost of using a generator. For those that have solar systems, the weather hasn’t been favorable this week as it’s started raining again. We’re grateful for the rains and pray that they fill up our side of #LakeKariba so that we can get more electricity generated from there.
The chaos that load shedding brings with it, especially when there’s no proper schedule, is at another level. A schedule that’s prepared and shared in good time helps people plan ahead and avert loss to a certain extent. However, the powers that be only announced that there’d be ‘serious load shedding’ 🙄. Maybe I missed the Memo with the load shedding schedule 🤷 please be kind enough to share it if you can.
Chaos and opportunity tend to go hand-in-hand and it depends on which side you’re on: those grabbing or creating opportunities for themselves, or the victims of the chaos. Sadly for most of us we are the victims of load shedding while others are making the most of the opportunities that have arisen due to load shedding. For example, those either selling or hiring out generators; those selling solar panels and alternative energy solutions; selling ice packs, frozen freezits and frozen mineral water; selling cooler boxes; selling LPG Gas, paraffin, petrol and diesel; selling gas canisters and gas stoves.
What other load shedding countering products or services can one provide besides the ones mentioned above? I’m curious to know and would appreciate your input in the comments 🙂
How are you coping with the #loadshedding gwanz?
As I pen off, it’s 2204hours and electricity has just been restored 💃💃💃. Thank you for passing by 🙂 do like, comment and share.
#load shedding in Zim, #alternative energy, #climate change #mentalhealth
Ever been so afraid of that one person such that your mind goes into freeze mode whenever they’re in your space? I can most certainly relate!
Not that she was evil or anything, but whenever she was in my spacle I literally froze. I’d become tongue tied and respond incoherently because I was soooo unnerved by her. She was my boss’s beautiful wife who has a very successful, well respected businesswoman. The kind of woman that commanded respect just by being there. She was a kind woman but I always felt small and super uncomfortable in her presence.
Instead of getting to know her better, I shrunk away and avoided her as much as I possibly could. As I reflect back on that time in my life, I realize that I was actually afraid of and running from myself, as in the greatness in me. I could have learnt a lot from her about becoming a successful woman but fear held me with its iron grip and fleeing seemed like the best and only option.
Sometimes we’re so afraid of our own power and whenever we see it exhibited by others we tend to shun and ridicule them, writing them off in our minds as being impossible beings. Could it be that the person you’re avoiding and so afraid of somehow resembles parts of the future you that has stepped into their greatness? At times the people we fear or feel uncomfortable and small in their presence are just humans that have stepped into their power and are comfortable in their own skin.
So, dear friend, instead of despising and avoiding that person, find ways you can learn from them. Maybe a first step would be identifying what exactly it is about this person that makes you feel so uncomfortable around them.
– Could it be that they’re more presentable and smartly dressed than you?
– Could it be that their confidence and boldness to speak out with clarity irritates the timid you?
– Could it be that their friendly demeanor makes them seemingly more attractive and effortlessly command other people’s attention?
– Could it be that they put more effort and apply themselves more diligently than you in the workplace?
Maybe you can explore further why you’re so afraid of this person so that you can work on yourself, improve where you need to improve, and apply yourself more diligently as you become the best version of yourself.
Thank you for reading thus far and for taking the next steps to understand why you are the way you are, as well as find practical ways to apply as you journey on in life on this side of eternity 🙂. Feel free to like, comment and share with others 😉 #balanceispossible #mentalhealth
In an ideal world where there are no electricity outages like it was back in the day, we would have enjoyed watching Home Alone 1, 2 & 3.
Christmas Carols in the Park while waiting to finally light up our candles and sing along is a memory etched in my archives. That feeling of togetherness, oneness and Ubuntu is rather indescribable and must be experienced for one to appreciate it🤗
Dressing up was the highlight of Christmas Day back there in Bulawayo where we’d wear our brand new clothes, shoes and accessories. The purpose being to show off to our neighbors and friends what our parents had done for us as we paraded through the hood with our friends, ensuring we passed by their house and took them with us on this Christmas Walk 😂😂😂 memories I treasure 😌
Aren’t all gifts Handmade?🤔 To me what matters most is the fact that one would have thought of getting me a gift,that’s special! To be held in regard by another human being whose intention is to appreciate me is most precious😍👌👌👌
Fake tree is less messy and easier to manipulate 🤣🤣🤣
Colorful lights to brighten up the room and make it cheery too. I love all the colors of the rainbow and colorful lights remind me of rainbows 🌈
As a lover of light in general, fairy lights bring out a certain ambience to a place, be it indoors or outdoors.
Gimme hot chocolate any time of day😋😋😋, fun part is you can add anything to it😉
Gingerbread for this brown girl right here🙋
This or that is neither here nor there, what matters is the privilege to be alive, to be able to show others you care for and appreciate them, to take another chance at living life as best as you can, and where possible, enjoying the presence of other fellow human beings 💕
I have did it and you can did it too😉 Jump into the challenge and share your Christmas This or That…
Ever asked yourself and others this question, “For the why?” 🤔
Why review your goals, especially towards the end of the year? So you can track your progress, identify where you need to improve and what needs to change, as well as acknowledge your achievements.
Why bother? Because you matter! You are enough! You are the difference-maker and you carry the solution to the next person’s problem! You may as well make your very existence matter by valuing the treasure that you are by sharing your Time, Talents and Treasures with the world. Inherent in each and every one of us is immense ability to be and to do beyond our expectations and limitations, on condition that you believe!
Why are you following the people you follow, be it on social media, or life in general? Are they adding value to you? Are they truly inspiring you to do and be more? Maybe it’s time you did an audit of who you’re following and why? The more you value your time, the more you’ll value other people’s time and stop shortchanging yourself in the process. Growth demands this of each and everyone of us to review our progress, interests, passions and pursuits in order to make the relevant changes to spur us on.
I share these insights not to condemn or judge you, but to inspire you to do better for yourself. Not all of us have people encouraging us to be and do our best in life as we work on becoming the best version of ourselves, but I am here for you to encourage, inspire and empower you with practical nuggets you can apply on your journey this side of eternity 🙂. That’s how much you matter to me and many others (I’m just privileged to say it out loud right here 🤗📣📣📣)
Thank you for your time and attention 👏👌💯 I look forward to hearing from you how your experience of asking ‘For the Why?’ has been. Feel free to like, comment and share this blog with others 🙂 Till next time🤝 #balanceispossible
Ever felt like your mind was scrambled like scrambled eggs, your thoughts seemingly all over the shore but actually all intact in your mind 🤯?
That’s how I’ve been feeling lately and it led me to search within myself why this was so. At times we become overwhelmed by the vicissitudes of life that tower higher than Mount Kilimanjaro and seem insurmountable; key word being ‘seem’. Being human and experiencing life on this side of eternity is quite the adventure full of highs and lows and the in-between.
Many a time we’ve heard the saying, “things aren’t always what they seem”, often used in self defense to avoid character annihilation. Whatever the case may be, it is true that things aren’t always what they seem, for example, a mirage in the middle of the road on a hot summer day may seem to be a puddle of water up ahead, yet when you get to the spot you don’t find any water and realize it was just a mirage.
Back to feeling like a scatterbrain…, a scatterbrain, by definition, is a person who is forgetful, disorganized, or unable to concentrate or think clearly (@Meriam-Webster.com). The last part of this definition: ‘unable to concentrate or think clearly’ is what had me wondering whether I’d become a scatterbrain 🤯. Relax my friend, turns out I’m not a scatterbrain even though it kinda felt like I was for a moment, or maybe I convinced myself that I was one🤔?
As I write to you dear friend, my state of mind is clearer and not of the scatterbrain kind 😅, as I managed to take some time out to unscramble my thoughts, emotions and beliefs. It’s amazing what we discover about ourselves when we make the time to explore what’s going on in our souls. At times the discoveries will scare us, but what is exposed is duly dealt with and either discarded, or put in the right place.
Friend, I hope you will make the time to examine your thoughts, emotions and beliefs as you focus on your mental well-being, and remember that #balanceispossible