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Balance = stability, calmness, appropriate proportions,

self-control,

an even distribution,

a counteracting weight or force

Life is about balance. Be kind, but don’t let people abuse you. Trust, but don’t be deceived. Be content, but never stop improving yourself.

— Zig Ziglar.

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How the Alphabet changed my life in 2022

Who knew just how powerful and life transforming the letters of the alphabet really can be when put together to form words? Amazing isn’t? Hello Friends 🙋 I hope you’re keeping well. Reflecting on the past few months and how my mind has shifted from being stuck to gaining momentum. We began this year by looking at these 4 words: Alive, Brave, Choice, Dare.

How have these impacted on you?
Are you feeling more Alive?
What Brave decisions did you make?
What Choices have you made this year?
What did you Dare to do, dream or be?

I am mostly definitely feeling more Alive than at the beginning of this year😃🙋
One of the Brave decisions I made was to use the alphabet to change my life and I’m soooo glad I did coz the multiple shifts in my mindset have been phenomenal 😌🤗
Speaking of Choices, this year one of the bravest choices I made was to make a career change in the middle of the year 😱kkkkkkk.
I Dared to believe in and value myself beyond my past and present circumstances. I Dared to hope and work towards a better, healthier and wealthier lifestyle 💃💃💃

So, how have you made changes in your life with these 4 words: Alive, Brave, Choice, Dare?

The next set of words we’re reflecting on are: Effort, Fear, Goal, Holistic, Imagine.

How have these impacted on you?
Where do you to put more Effort?
How do you face/handle Fear?
What Goals have you made & achieved this year?
Are you taking an Holistic approach to life?
What do you Imagine about your life & possibilities?

So, how have you made changes in your life with these 5 words: Effort, Fear, Goal, Holistic, Imagine?

The next set of words we’re reflecting on are: Joy, Kindness, Love, Me-Time, Nourish.

How have these impacted on you?
What brings you to the most Joy?
Are you Kinder?
What do you Love?
Are you taking Me-Time?
What are you Nourish?

So, how have you made changes in your life with these 5 words: Joy, Kindness, Love, Me-Time, Nourish?

The next set of words we’re reflecting on are: Opportunity, Posture, Quest, Remember, Strength.

How have these impacted on you?
Opportunities you took up?
Good Posture habits?
What is your life’s Quest?
What have you been Remembering?
What are your Strengths?

So, how have you made changes in your life with these 5 words: Opportunity, Posture, Quest, Remember, Strength?

The last set of words we’re reflecting on are: Thrive, Uniqueness, Value, Wealth.

How have these impacted on you?
What will it take for you to Thrive?
What makes you Unique?
What do you Value?
What Weath habits have you embraced thus far?

So, how have you made changes in your life with these 4 words: Thrive, Uniqueness, Value, Wealth?

#Recap
#balanceispossible
#findingbalancewithnozi
#yourbalanceguru

Thank you so much for coming on this journey with me of appreciating the letters of the alphabet and the positive impact words can have on our lives. It would really be great if you can share in the comments how this journey has impacted your life so we can all grow, learn from each other and practically work towards being the best versions of ourselves😉

How Dare You???

I love how words can have a totally different meaning from what you’d have initially imagined🤗.

“How dare you?”, today I ask you a simple question: How dare you? How dare you give up on yourself and your dreams? How dare you stop trying, hoping and believing in yourself? How dare you believe the nay-sayers? How dare you believe that critical voice in your head discouraging you from even trying to take the next step forward towards a better you? How dare you allow unhelpful beliefs to limit you and stop you dead in your tracks?

How dare you? How dare you? I’m on a roll today hun and am also in your corner rooting for you to keep going! Get up! Stand up! Stand up for your rights! The right to live, the right to dream, the right to try, the right to fail and the right to pick yourself up and keep on moving!

I hear you saying, “Nozie how dare you ask me such questions?!!!🙄” Lol, 😁 I dare because I care! I care about you and seeing you make your dreams come true. Imaging your ideal life can be an easy process for many, but making your dreams come true is a process that can be sooo daunting, overwhelming, frustrating (especially when things don’t go your way), but it can also be soooo rewarding, fulfilling and exciting as you begin to see your efforts paying off 🤓

Sooo, dear friend, what will you dare to do? Who will you dare to become? What changes will you dare to immediately make in your life this very moment? What decisions and choices will you dare to make in order to move forward, make your dreams come true and dare to try again?

What unhelpful beliefs will you dare to identify, explore, and replace with beliefs that help you move forward? A belief is a mental position, an opinion of what a person thinks to be best, right, or true. For example, an unhelpful belief could be, ‘Everyone hates me’. Can you prove that everyone hates you? Maybe you need to change your perception of yourself and replace that unhelpful, hindering belief with this more positive belief that says, ‘Anyone I meet likes something about me☺!️’ I’ve included the link below to a video on 10 Limiting Beliefs, do check it out and learn more about how you can change limiting/unhelpful beliefs. Enjoy…

https://sharevideo1.com/v/bDhvR0VLMkJYcE0=?t=ytb&f=wh

Thank you for tuning in and I’d love your feedback in the comments😊 Feel free to share with many😉

Tribute to my Father

Although he’s been gone for over 15years, I still remember and cherish the day dad came back from the United States of America in the summer of 1992 💃💃💃what a memorable day it was and the image above speaks volumes as you can see!

My father, the late Reverend Osborne Samuel “Madlez’babayo”, “Dancer Boy” Mpofu was a legendary man, son, father, brother and my mom’s best friend. He was love personified, had a hilarious sense of humour, a hearty laugh and the warmest smile I’ve ever seen and been privileged to inherit😊 He was my greatest life teacher and his words of wisdom still resonate loud and clear in my heart, especially in those moments when the world seems to be against me and all I want is a hug from my dad, and to hear his calming, soothing but firm voice filled with love and wise counsel…, If you know, you know..

I write this as a tribute to my dad, the man who contributed to my being here on earth, the man who taught me a whole lot about life, especially knowing, serving and honouring God with my life all my life! What a man he was! So loving and so kind! So wise, solution-minded, and ever willing to offer wise counsel. One of his favourite sayings was, “Ukufunda kakupheli mntanami” (learning never ends my daughter).

I remember just before I left for boarding school (high school), dad’s advice to me was, “Don’t be afraid to ask questions and to seek clarity. As a Chinese saying goes, ‘You would rather be a fool for 10 seconds than to be a fool for life!’. So don’t hesitate to ask your teachers questions where you don’t understand. The reason we’re sending you to school is so you get a good education and above all understand what you learn, so ask questions and there’s never a wrong question as long as you are seeking clarity!”

So today as we celebrate Father’s Day, I just wanted to remember the legend, Rev. O.S.M. Mpofu, my father who will always be the Best Dad in the world!!! 😍💝💖💞💓 I miss him beyond words and I’m blessed to be an extension of the great man he was while he still walked on this earth.

Happy Father’s Day to all the fathers out there. May you continue leaning into the Grace of Fatherhood so you can always be the best dads in the world 🙏

The Balance Check Series – Ep01

The unexpected happens to us all and can leave us overwhelmed, disoriented, disillusioned, disconnected, the list is endless of how we may feel when we’re out of balance and not totally in control of what’s happening to us or around us. It’s important for us to then learn how we can get to a state of balance. I’m very passionate about balance and will be sharing more with you about #findingbalance. In this month of January 2022, I started sharing posts on 4 words; Alive, Brave, Choice, Dare; and here on The Balance Check I walk you through these words, what they mean to me in relation to Balance, and how we can apply them in our lives as we strive to find and maintain balance in our lives, because #balanceispossible😉.

“Life is the longest thing you will ever do. Living a balanced life is important for a happy and healthy life full of passion and enjoyment.” – girlhasamind.com

Balance = harmony in every area of your life. Is Balance important to you?

The Balance Check is a monthly review of your state of being balanced. Taking a look at where you are, what you need to change/improve/stop/continue, what new skills you need to apply in order to get to the desired end. Each episode will broaden your awareness and enhance your capacity to learn how to apply life principles that will help you maintain balance in your life. It’s not a quick fix, nor is it an instant results formula, but it’s a means to an end so that you will achieve greater balance in your life. You are the one who determines how far you’ll go in life if and when you effectively apply the information you receive. #balanceispossible

Definitions of the 4 Words for January in relation to balance;-

“ALIVE: being present, attentive and involved, not aloof to your circumstances and surroundings”.

“BRAVE: being courageous by overcoming your fears”.

As long as you’re alive on earth you will face situations where you’ll have to be brave, and you can do this by stepping into the grace of being brave and conquering your fears. Conquering your fears means facing your fears by identifying exactly what it is that you’re afraid of. This can be a humbling experience as you acknowledge weaknesses that you probably thought you’d alreapdy overcome, but don’t despair, there’s hope for us all!! Repeat this after me, “Fear is not my friend!!” say it again, and again, and again, and begin to walk in that truth.

“CHOICE: I always have a choice!”

@thegoodvibe

We all have to, and actually do make choices every waking moment of our lives, whether we acknowledge it or not. What are we considering as we make our choices? It’s important to be aware of what drives our choices like beliefs, family expectations and priorities, societal expectations and priorities, sometimes fear can drive our choices. Awareness is key in order to come up with an effective solution.

“DARE: to be courageous enough to try”.

Even when faced with the unfamiliar, be courageous enough to try, to learn something new, try embracing a new habit.

So, what do these words mean to you: Alive, Brave, Choice, Dare? Do share in the comments below.

Thank you for your time. Let’s also connect on Facebook, Instagram @nozibelompofu & Twitter: @NozibeloMpofu. See you soon, and remember, #balanceispossible #findingbalanceispossible!!!

#grateful

#grateful

What a year 2021 has been and I’m so #grateful to be alive and #survivedcovidtwice! I have so much more to be thankful for like the gift of life, the gift of family, the blessing of friendship, a sound mind and a healthy body, the chaotic nature of change that leads to transformation. Indeed #balanceispossible, although not always easy to attain, it is a worthwhile feat.

So, what are you grateful for as 2021 comes to an end? What lessons did you learn from both other people’s and your experiences? Who/what impacted you the most? What scared you? What drove or led you to make positive changes in your life?

I learnt that if you do nothing to nothing, nothing happens! If I don’t look for or work towards the solution, nothing will change. If all I focus on are the problems/challenges I face, my circumstances won’t change. My responsibility is to be actively involved by taking the appropriate actions/steps leading to the solutions I desire. At times this may mean asking for and accepting help from others 😉

Thank you for your time and for connecting with me through my blog💖 I am so grateful for you and I appreciate you big time! May it be well with you. May your children rise up and call you blessed. May your heart’s desires be fulfilled as you open up yourself to new opportunities and deliberately choose to shift your focus from negativity to positivity. May you embrace the energy to make your dreams come true. May your light shine brighter and brighter as you embrace your greatness and walk in your destiny. May you be blessed beyond measure so you can also be a blessing to others💖💖

May you choose to be grateful every day of your life!!

Here’s to another year of discovery, transformation, inspiration, challenges and opportunities. Happy 2022🎉🎊🎉🎊💃💃💃💃💃 hope to see you on the other side 😍 and remember #balanceispossible😉

Dark Lipstick

Life & Dark Lipstick

Sometimes people want to confine us to the image they have of us, but that’s neither fair nor practical especially when that image is not in sync with your self-image. For example, someone may tell you that the lipstick you’re wearing is too dark and doesn’t suit you, or is not suitable for your complexion! Like seriously???? Where do they get off telling you what lip colour to put on?


As a woman, while its important to know which colours suit your complexion, there’s no harm in trying out new things that may actually suit you more than what someone else prescribed as ideal.



Beyond lip colour, I wanted to encourage you to be confident in yourself, go after what you feel is right for you and own it! Be comfortable in your own skin by owning your choices and the decisions you make as you exercise your God-given right of choice.



We all make our choices, including choosing not to choose – that’s also a choice hey! Remember that it may not always be possible to balance your right to make choices with the expectations or opinions of others, especially those that are close to you. However, that should not hinder you from making the choices you need to make.

Although variety is the spice of life, you still must make a choice and decide what works best for you🤗


Striking a balance in any given situation may be challenging and may not always be immediately possible, but it surely is possible and may require patience. At times that may mean agreeing to disagree, shifting your focus or perception, accepting, or rather, acknowledging the other person’s point of view. Bottom line is #balanceispossible😉

So, how do you #findbalance in the various situations life throws your way? Is it always possible to strike that balance? Do share your thoughts in the Comments section below, and thank you for taking the time to read through.

I’m Not an Alien!

That moment when you feel like shouting out, “I’m not an alien! I’m only human.” Exasperating isn’t it when you feel you must remind people that you’re not an alien? I remember one time when I almost scrum those words out loud, but being the lady that I am, I chose not to although deep down on the inside of me a different state of being was taking place.

After having made a mistake, or several mistakes, it occurred to me that often times people regard me very highly and wouldn’t expect me to make an error of judgement or forget a tiny detail, maybe because they’ve forgotten that I’m not an alien, I’m only human like they are! As unlikely as it may seem, I do make mistakes or forget and overlook things, although not deliberately. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying this to excuse tardiness but to remind you that I’m not an alien, I’m only human! 🤭kkkk

How do you handle frustrating scenarios?

How do you remain composed when everything in you is kicking and screaming ‘injustice’?

Do you really need to remind people that you’re human? At times you do hey especially when an injustice has been dished generously in your plate and you’re expected to just take it! Be it in a family discourse, a discussion at work, while in a shop, or anywhere else, if you feel like you’re being treated unfairly do speak up and try to be polite and as composed as possible so your emotions don’t get the better of you.

At times I wish I was an alien from outta space, seemingly clueless about the going-ons on earth but exuding superior knowledge, power and understanding of life. Go ahead and laugh, it’s hilarious isn’t it? Well, at least we’ve laughed together about this!!

Anyways, my encouragement to you dear friend is be kindest to you coz you’ll make mistakes, an error of judgement here, or a costly assumption there, either way you don’t know it all but make every effort to know as much as you can in any given situation. Evaluate those frustrating situations and ask yourself, ‘How else can I do or consider this?’, and repeatedly ask ‘Why?’ until you get to the root cause. It’s a process indeed, but a worthwhile one. Try it out and let me know how it goes. Until next time; be kinder to you and to other fellow non-alien beings and remember, #balanceispossible!!! Drop me an email: nozimpofu@gmail.com

Photo creds: Lukas Denier, Priscilla Du-Preez and Mark Adriane (Unsplash)



Totally Worth It!

I rushed into his office and there he was sitting with his team having a brainstorming session for their upcoming Community Outreach. Everyone turned to look at me clutching my laptop and notebook and I froze! I didn’t say a word out loud as I thought to myself, “I can’t do this to him!” I stumbled out of his office onto the pavement and blindly walked away as quickly as my feet could carry me.

While deep in thought, I felt a warm hand on my lower back and his gentle voice whispered in my ear, “Penny for your thoughts?” froze, smiled, heart beating fast; didn’t expect him to follow me like this; gentle kind eyes melted the icy feeling on the inside and I stopped, breathing stabilized then I mumbled a lame joke. He held onto my lower back…skin tingling, butterflies in my stomach; maximum scintillation.. “I’ll walk you to your car. Where are you off to? Actually, I’ll go there with you!” that was final!… and then I woke up to the sound of birds chirping away, signalling the start of a brand new day. At times reality sucks!

What triggered such vivid imagery in this brilliant mind of mine? Well, I don’t know hey, but all I know is that I woke up with a smile on my face thinking to myself, “I’m lovable and not only did I get his attention, but he spent the whole afternoon with me, despite his super busy schedule, especially at this time of the year! Although it was a dream, it felt so real!” Well, well, sometimes we doubt our worth as life’s overwhelming situations present themselves, however, how refreshing it is when our minds remind us of our worth. Hope that puts a smile on your face too, knowing you’re worthy of all the love, affection, tenderness and love, especially from yourself.

More often than not, we look externally for validation from our parents, family, church, work colleagues and associates, at times even from strangers. That human need for acknowledgement, or an insatiable hunger for some, is so real and is a part of who we are as humans. What really drives one to crave attention? Could it be the need for acceptance? Whatever the reason, remember acceptance is key to sustainable relationships with others.

Accept yourself

Accept your past

Accept your mistakes, regrets add no value to your current life

Accept others for who they are, everyone wants to be recognized for who they are

Accept that you have limited control in life

Accept you have limited time

Accept that you will fail, failure is the first step to success. The ultimate goal is to become the best version of yourself

Accept that you control your future, how you respond to situations is your choice

Accept change: everything is constantly changing. As humans we like the norm. Let go of your hold on permanence.

Accept your need for social approval: we all desire to gain approval and social acceptance from peers and/or communities.

Accept that there will be suffering in life: pain is inevitable, but suffering us optional

Accept things as they are for what they are: resist the urge to want to control everything. It takes humility and openness to accept things

(Acceptance notes above are an excerpt from the video ‘12 Things You Must Accept to Live A Good Life’ by Naimat Ahmed: linktr.ee/naimatahmed)

I hope you find value in the reminders above and accept that you’re an awesome, creative, progressive, powerful, valuable human being and that you’re well equipped to face life head-on and remember #balanceispossible!

On Keeping Hope Up…

How do you ‘soldier on’ in the midst of adverse conditions, situations or circumstances?

How do you overlook issues and remain ‘sane’?

How do you shut the noise out and find some form of balance?

There is no one formula to life and responding to life’s challenges and situations, however the danger is to stay in the “I’m so stuck” lane as it may then be difficult to see things and life in a different way.

Indeed, change is uncomfortable, scary, unpredictable. As humans we generally love our comforts and the danger of that is being attached to your comfort zone as this deters your growth in more than one way. Change means that we must deviate from the norm as we are thrust into the zone of discomfort and uncertainty. In this zone our emotions can ring louder than reason, where our mind becomes a battlefield and we’re potentially thrown out of balance.

As difficult as it may sound, we must not lose hope but rather, let’s keep the hope up by learning and embracing new habits, putting the new information we get to practice, staying connected with others in as many ways as possible, writing down our dreams and plans, and having a positive mindset. Read more books that will draw you more towards hope, growth and moving forward. Be part of various online communities that speak to your value as an individual. And, remember, #balanceispossible!!

I have come to appreciate that hope is my anchor and without hope I am nothing. Hope energizes, hope gives life. Having hope means having an expectation of positive outcomes. What are you hoping for?

We’ve Been Here Before

As we ponder on the many things we’re currently faced with and the many things we’d like to achieve in this great year of 2021, let us remember this: we’ve been here before! How many times did you set new year’s resolutions only for them to wilt and wither, long forgotten deep in the forest of your subconscious mind?




“It is only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth – and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up – that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had.”– Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

We’ve been here before: in various lockdowns as the Covid19 pandemic spiked and went down but didn’t go away. We feared, we worried, we hoarded, we avoided, we calmed down, we survived, we cried as we buried loved ones, neighbours and friends.

We’ve been here before: fresh produce perished, some goods were lost in transit, businesses closed while some new ventures sprouted, we experienced delays. We complained, we adjusted, we adapted, did online trainings, got encouraged and enthused, re-focused and re-energized.

For those of us in Zimbabwe, so much hope and excitement was in the year as we ended 2020, little did we know that the Covid19 wave would hit us harder as we entered the new year. Lockdown was effected once again, and we found ourselves back in that cycle again. We’ve been here before and we learnt a lot of lessons like a few below:

  • Prepare for the unpredictable by being ready to embrace a new, positive mindset that chooses to ignore the noise and soldier on
  • Death has no prior notice and doesn’t announce itself or give you time to prepare, adjust or adapt
  • Maintaining good relationships matters as these will put you over, support and sustain you when the chips are down
  • Never say never
  • We are stronger than we give ourselves credit
  • #balanceispossible

What will you do differently this year? Let me know in ‘comments’ below. Thanks and great day to you!

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